Eddie Van Halen Changed Rock History. Now His Brother Is Telling Their Story.

Alex Van Halen’s new book, “Brothers,” recounts the story of his personal and musical life with his brother, Eddie.Credit...Magdalena Wosinska for The New York Times

By Richard Bienstock
Oct. 16, 2024
On Oct. 4, 2015, Van Halen performed at the Hollywood Bowl in what proved to be its last show, capping a decades-long run as one of rock’s most successful and influential acts. The amphitheater is about 30 minutes from the 800-square-foot house in Pasadena, Calif., where the Van Halen brothers — the drummer Alex and the guitarist Eddie — grew up. But the journey between those spots took the group all over the world, through the highest highs and lowest lows of rock ’n’ roll glory, excess and tragedy.

Alex, 71, has learned to be grateful for every moment of it. During a video call one morning in September from his home in the Los Angeles area, he cited an old saying: “‘In the effort lies the reward.’” He was dressed casually in a blue button-down check shirt underneath a leather jacket, sunglasses on and dark hair brushed back. On an otherwise bare wall behind him hung a gold record for Van Halen’s 1978 self-titled debut album.

“That’s exactly how Ed and I felt,” he said. “The ride was the reward. And it’s been a hell of a ride.”

That trek — the first 30 or so years of it, at least — is chronicled in “Brothers,” a book that will be published on Oct. 22, which Alex was moved to write after losing Eddie, his younger sibling by roughly 20 months, to cancer in October 2020. He characterized the project, told with the New Yorker writer Ariel Levy, as “a painful experience.” But, he said, “you’ve got to go through the pain to get to the other part.”

Alex and his brother were extremely close. “Every day, the first thing I’d do is call him,” he said. “We would talk, we would yell and scream at each other. But we were always supportive.”Credit...Magdalena Wosinska for The New York Times
Alex was a commanding presence onstage, especially in Van Halen’s early years (recall him bare chested, furiously bashing away behind a massive drum kit in the 1981 video for “Unchained”), but he was always more reserved with the press. He ceded the role of mouthpiece to the band’s exhibitionist singer, David Lee Roth, and his brother, who was routinely hailed as one of the greatest guitarists of his generation.

“Ed found a new way to play,” the Toto guitarist Steve Lukather, a longtime friend of the Van Halens, said in a phone interview. “And then he kept recreating the instrument over and over.” Lukather, who played rhythm guitar and bass on Michael Jackson’s hit “Beat It” (Eddie took the solo), continued: “Not since Jimi Hendrix did someone have that kind of an impact.”

Despite Eddie’s yearslong battle with various cancers, his death at 65 was not necessarily expected. “We were getting ready to make another record,” Alex said of the period after the Hollywood Bowl show. The news elicited an outpouring of emotion from fans, family, friends, bandmates and some of the biggest names in the music world. But Alex issued only a brief public statement.

“Brothers” breaks his silence. Why did he write it? “To add a little more depth to the understanding of what Ed was all about,” he said. Addressing the intensity of the attention heaped on his brother, whether for his transformative guitar playing or, later in his life, his addiction and health struggles, he added, “When you’re in the spotlight, people tend to speak for you. I wanted to remind people that Ed was not a commodity. He was a complex human being.”

A black-and-white photo of four hair-metal musicians standing in a row onstage, singing gleefully into two shared microphones.

From left: Michael Anthony, David Lee Roth, Alex and Eddie Van Halen. “Brothers” effectively ends in 1984, around the time of Van Halen’s initial split with the frontman Roth.Credit...Larry Busacca/WireImage, via Getty Images

Alex, more than anyone, would know; even for siblings, they were very close. “Every day, the first thing I’d do is call him,” he said. “We would talk, we would yell and scream at each other. But we were always supportive.”

Donn Landee, the engineer and producer who worked beside the brothers on Van Halen’s first eight albums, said Alex and Eddie were “a unit,” who were “either fighting or defending each other from everybody else. But absolutely locked together.”

Early on, it was for survival. The family, headed by their Dutch jazz musician father, Jan Van Halen, and Indonesian mother, Eugenia (“tiny but tough,” Alex writes), emigrated to America in 1962. Alex was 8, Ed, 6; they rode for many days on a boat from Holland to New York, impressing the crew and fellow passengers by performing classical pieces on a Rippen piano that was one of a few possessions the family brought across the ocean. Today, the instrument sits in the hallway of Alex’s home.

“It’s representative of the whole trip of us coming here,” he said, turning his camera to display the weathered upright. What did he learn on it? “I learned to dislike it,” he answered with a laugh.

“You can spend your whole life trying to make what happened before happen again,” Alex writes of the band’s biggest success. “I honestly believe that’s what cost my brother his life.”Credit...Magdalena Wosinska for The New York Times

The family made its way to Southern California, where Eugenia had relatives, and the brothers were entranced — by the blazing SoCal sun; by the stream of “Felix the Cat” cartoons on TV; eventually, Alex writes, by the “wildness and rebellion” of rock ’n’ roll. But they were also outcasts. Neither spoke English, and the family was often in turmoil; their parents argued, and Jan struggled to find steady work and music gigs, developing a worsening drinking habit along the way.

Alex was the tough one, at times coming to physical blows with his father; Eddie, in his view, was “more sensitive.” In the book, he recalls his mother hearing Eddie practice guitar in his room and referring to his soloing — something that would come to evoke joy and awe in millions of listeners — as “that high crying noise.” “If our mother didn’t like the sound of that wail, can you blame her?” he writes. “It’s hard to hear your kid suffer.”

When the brothers hooked up with Roth, a Midwest transplant from a well-off family, they recognized a shared experience despite their very different upbringings. “He was basically the same as us,” Alex said. “He felt himself an outcast.” Together, the three (along with the bassist Michael Anthony) manifested a flamboyant, virtuosic band that made music filled with high-voltage riffs, ear-worm melodies and lead-guitar heroics.

“All that intensity from the stuff that happened to them in their childhood came out in the music,” Lukather said.

That the ultimate party-rock act had angst at its core isn’t wholly surprising, and throughout “Brothers,” Alex illuminates the point. He writes of his father, who had served in the Dutch Air Force in World War II, once telling him and Eddie that when the bombs started falling, “people didn’t pray: they went to the basement to party like there was no tomorrow.” The Van Halen ethos in a nutshell. “That accounted for why, when we were onstage, we were happier than most,” Alex said in the interview.

Working on the book was “a painful experience,” Alex said. But “you’ve got to go through the pain to get to the other part.”Credit...Magdalena Wosinska for The New York Times

“Brothers” effectively ends in 1984, around the time of Van Halen’s initial split with Roth. As Alex explained, this period, from when the band formed through Roth leaving, defined “the real, vibrant spirit of the band.” He addresses his own struggles that followed — with alcohol until the mid-80s; with benzodiazepines after an old neck injury flared up a decade later — but allocates more space, both on the page and emotionally, to his brother’s battles.

Eddie, he writes, had “flashes of genuine ingenuity” — the brain-scrambling tapping licks in “Eruption”; the indelible keyboard salvo that opens the chart-topping “Jump.” These moments, which made him so beloved by so many, Alex posits in the book, also haunted him. “You can spend your whole life trying to make what happened before happen again,” he writes. “I honestly believe that’s what cost my brother his life.”

The path Eddie followed in later years, marked on and off by substance abuse, erratic public behavior and unconventional theories about the cause of his cancer, is one that Alex is still trying to reconcile. Looking back on it all, he said, “really, really made me angry. I wanted to grab him by the throat and shake him and go, ‘What the [expletive] were you thinking, Ed?’ But it’s too late now.”

But “Brothers” is not a story of regret. It’s a tale of understanding, of acceptance, of love. Mostly, of humanness. “If you’re going to tell the story, you should give equal space to the good and the bad,” Alex said. “Because the good doesn’t make any sense without having the bad.”

“I know that sounds like philosophical mumbo jumbo,” he added. “But I really wanted to emphasize the fact that Ed was brave up until the last minute. At the end of the day, he’s got nothing to be ashamed of. And I wish that he was here and that I could say, ‘Ed, let’s try it one more time.’ Because I know he had it in him.”